Before we can be authentic and vulnerable with others, we need to be authentic and vulnerable with ourselves. We need to show ourselves compassion and love. For most of us, that’s a pretty tall order.
Self-love is the fuel that allows an individual to reach their full potential and is filled with compassion, grace, and gentleness. Creating space and prioritizing ourselves allows us to embrace our lives completely and wholeheartedly. Self-love is learning to extend kindness toward ourselves, even when we struggle and suffer. It is extending forgiveness to ourselves when we make mistakes. Self-love means prioritizing ourselves and giving ourselves permission to find and believe in our strengths and gifts. It means creating space to identify our needs and wants.
Depending on your perspective on humility and deservingness, you may find it difficult to assert that you are worthy of self-love. Compassion, care, and acceptance are in fact as fundamental as water, food, or shelter. Recognizing your worth and need for self-love is a core aspect of humanity.
Self-love is often thought of as selfish and that couldn’t be further from the truth. In order to care for others effectively, one must first care for themselves. You can pour from an empty cup. Ultimately, self-care helps you and others.
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. -Rumi
Self-love delves beyond the surface and isn’t all about rainbows and unicorns along the way. Along with recognizing your worth, needs, and goals, self-love requires the courage to distinguish your weaknesses, challenges, and obstacles. Therefore, self-love necessitates humility, empathy, and concern for the self as well as for others.
A critical component of self-love is recognizing your limits, needs, and worth, and asserting intrapersonal and interpersonal boundaries as needed to uphold them. Beyond the stereotypically positive perks, self-love also includes the decision to recognize your areas for growth, tailoring a compassionate approach that will allow you to bravely face it head-on to make necessary changes. True self-love can be enacted by taking accountability and responsibility as you courageously embark on your journey.
Oftentimes, we struggle to know how to love ourselves. We quickly and easily identify shame and negative beliefs about ourselves and the need for self-love but get stuck, not knowing what steps to take to change. Oftentimes we feel lost, hopeless, and unsure that we'll ever be able to feel differently.
This is why we developed Soul Shine workshops and retreats. Soul Shine is all about recognizing the facade and lies that we hold up and cling to. It's about learning to embrace our inherent dignity and worth and emerging softer, wiser, and more compassionate. We discover all the ways in which we are not broken but deeply profoundly whole.
Join us for our next Soul Shine workshop or retreat! You deserve this. We want this for you. Visit www.creatingspacetherapy.com to learn more about our Soul Shine workshops and retreats.